Courtesy is the most powerful force in the world. 
Hi Everyone: For
not considered, I clarify that things are a
limit, for example: the borders between countries, the walls of a house, the laws, the skin of our body, schedules, these are limits that can most distinguished and respected.
But human relationships also have limits, which are often not clearly defined and that dysfunctional families are constantly violated. Now I write some lectures on the limits:
The boundary is the imaginary line dividing where each human being lives no one can pass unless he allows it. There are three fields of action of these limits. The social field with absolute limits, where we have natural laws, rules, regulations. The
bilateral, which are negotiable, which are put to other humans.
The intrapersonal, which I put to me.
Of the latter is important to say that if you do not put limits, I can not put them to others.
Being a personal work, nobody can do this for me, I am responsible to meet them and to review my own performance. Recommended
remember that our freedom ends where it begins to others.
The matters which I can set limits is excessive sensitivity (mourn for all), anger, worry, the fear, anguish, anxiety, the nonsense coming out of our mouths, to get into the lives of others, to tell others what they should do, to solve problems that others are working to solve, apathy, the economy (restricted to overspend or over) a useless thoughts in my mind or waste time.
And many more that can be named. Regarding
negotiable boundaries,
one must put up with the love, in a calm state Not altered, it must be a consistent and constant. Tolerance does not mean letting it all with tenderness, tolerance has its limits.
An example is this respect for a person who constantly cries out: "Dear Paul (Paul is an example name) I love you, but I ask you please not yell at me, I do not like people to me scream, and I decided that I will not allow this aggression in my life. So every time you scream, I will retire from the room or place where we "
Limits are to mark the inappropriate behavior is a system
healthy living should be firm but flexible, the easiest way to limits is to be in the here and now. Remember
and words can be the most damaging weapon, courtesy is the most powerful force in the world.
as always I am sending a big, big hug.
Sources: Conference
Salvador Valadez for Al-anon.
Related phrases:
Live and let live.
Just for today.
pace yourself. Think
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