By: Kim Perez
have always been so beautiful or trans women who have been able to pass unnoticed among other women.
is now eighteen girls who make the transition and preserve the clean speech, cheek intact and the overall look of a child.
for each other is the dilemma of living like any other women or accept reality as trans.
For those who are like me, big, or deep voice, or balding, this dilemma is presented, and although it may feel regret for not having lived at least say that I see things clearly.
The point is that a transformation may be a woman, but a transgender woman and in no way a woman like any other, which can be bad for some purposes and good to others, but it is reality.
To understand this, we must have the courage to distinguish between the visible and the invisible visible is the personal presence, perfect, a lot of problems out of the way it simply is true.
But the invisible, it is also true: a personal history that can not be denied, a family that knows and with which we must continue to count, a physical reality that makes us sterile so we must consider our future also counting on it (for example, we may disappoint a man who wanted children of their own)
For all these things can mourn - why I can not be a woman like any other? - , but weeping not fix things. You have to look at them face to face.
Put yourself in the case of a girl operated and indistinguishable from any woman (beautiful or ugly, it does not come to mind)
She decides to become a woman like any other. Immediately, and oddly enough, have to hide in the closet, because you have to hide all of trans origin.
can be when going out, always afraid that someone can recognize it and put it into evidence. Or that, having an affair, his partner, who certainly would have told him no, you can discover at any time and considered deluded.
Suppose that after some time, I tell your partner if he had not known. Again the awful fear arises whether, to know, will continue or cease, also outraged by what I would consider a lie.
Instead, imagine the situation of women or simply very beautiful women that are trans and do not hide it (there are, thankfully)
Van calm down the street, of course, no one to mess with them and change might escape some admiring glance or a compliment (rude or not) All this is certainly comforting.
The same situation can occur in all media in which no person need be defined, starting from the supermarket or hairdresser.
But among friends, acquaintances, at work, at college, just let them know and do not mind saying or that new and newcomers become aware of those before.
what it takes? Simply, self-confidence.
If a man comes up to him then, is approaching because she likes. And those who do not approach him, you do not like. In that, more or about the same as any other woman.
Can a transsexual man attracts a primarily heterosexual? Yes it is, happens, happens, and sometimes creates love stories of surprising intensity and stability.
In such cases, the man you know, for example, will not have children with her partner, and does not care too much because he wants to be with her.
Other times it may be the curiosity that sends, but if morbid, does not last long, and if it lasts, it is not morbid.
The transformation of which is known to be trans (and this I know for a while) walking along the quiet and safe life. Those who want it, are with her, and those who did not want or are too cowards (and then it is she who must not love them) fall away.
visible Transsexualism is a great clarifier of human relationships. Most people do not know who wants it and who does not want it and hides, but we do.
security gives courage, and bravery, strength, and strength, generosity. Hardly a transsexual woman who wants to be accepted like any other date other transsexuals or those who need help because you know that I am transsexual!
shemale that we face (some because we have no choice and some because they want) are the ones who are in the transgender movement, sticking up for us and for all. We face even on television and that is a pride and joy, in the press, in Parliament, local councils, where required. And people like to see that we are brave and congratulate us.
But above all, we have the opportunity to do something for other trans, knowing what they feel, which is the same we feel. That is fine and happy.
From: Carla Antonelli
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